Saturday, April 08, 2006

I’m not racist…

… I hate you all.

I was thinking over the weekend about how bias my Blog must seem to some people. I’m pretty sure a lot of you think I’m in denial, or even blinded to the many injustices that take place in this country.
That’s not it at all. I know all the dirty stuff; I’d love to see some changes made in certain areas. I’m well aware of the discrepancies that take place on day to day bases here; the racism, the sexism; and the absurd use of ‘wasta.’

The point of my Blog isn’t the trash the rest of the world or make living in the UAE seem like a life of luxury for just about anyone who has been graced enough to get here. The point is to balance all the other negative bullshit people are blogging about when it comes to this beautiful place.

People complain too much. They center on the bad points and tend to forget the good. It’s simply not alright for me; because a clear picture of what living here is really all about is never seen in most blogs. Mine probably isn’t all that clear either. Maybe I do make living in the emirates look like peaches and cream; and it’s my right to do this.

The way I see it, if one person comes across your blog, and then follows on to mine; maybe the picture they’ll form is more realistic than either yours or mine on an individual bases.

I had one hell of a weekend. And I sure have a lot to say. But for now; I need to calm the fuck down over the racist son of a bitch who assaulted on the street this morning.


Blogger MD said...


well u're right. there's just too much negativity. and of course u'll find people commenting and saying how u have slave labour and that means the country only deserves to be bitched about.

people think blogging is ranting. not always. just because u live a comfortable life, doesnt mean you shouldnt blog. there's so much more out there, if only people saw beyond it.

this is ur blog. ur space. u have the right to write whatever u want to and choose whatever perspective u like. u have a strong voice, keep that alive :)

3:21 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger samuraisam said...

Hating is the same as loving.
Its how you differentiate between hating and loving that makes a difference.

I think people would love to be a bit more balanced in their blogging, but self censorship is self censorshit.

3:22 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger Smokey Mirror said...

You know, this is something I think about a lot.

I've lived in this country for 25 years. My whole life. There's no other place on the planet that I can actually call my 'home', even though I know that this place could never actually BE my home.

Now that I've made that clear.. I complain about the crap that goes on here. I complain a LOT.

But I'm not complaining because I 'hate' it here. We've all heard the 'if you don't like it, go home' crap. But I DO like it, and I feel like I AM home. And, just as I would if I saw something wrong at home, I'd like to see the 'broken' stuff fixed.

So yeah. A lot of people do complain just to whine. But a lot of us complain because we really do like it here. And we see the potential that this place has. And there's always the hope that at some point, one complaint might make it to the right person's ear and actually affect something.

Who knows?

3:32 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger Tainted Female said...


That's just it. I've been through more hell than you'd believe in this country, and the truth is I'm about ready to pick up and leave. But that's my problem.

UAE is a beautiful place, and as much as we want to fix the bumps people don't realize that bashing it only makes them seem unappreciative. Tell me, as a foreigner reading some blog like SD (since it is the most famous one on UAE), would you consider visiting the Emirates? Would you want to be here? I know some people already saying, "No fucking way I'm visiting you there! I'll end up with my hand chopped off!"

It's just not alright. If you want to get something done, there's a right way and a wrong way.

Sharla (as mentioned in an earlier blog), with her safe-house, is doing things the right way. She focusing her attention on where it IS going to make a difference. Just bitching isn't going to do much more than make those who love this country angry at you; and those who don't emphasize their hate along side; and those who have no idea what its all about, never actually want to learn for themselves. You see? In the end, it’s just discrediting a country we all have gained at least something from.

3:48 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger Smokey Mirror said...

Two things.

But before I start, I want to say that I do completely agree with you on one point. Sharla is the only person I know of who is currently doing it the 'right' way. She's actually doing something about it, rather than complaining. That's something that needs to be applauded.

Now me.

First, I have to wonder. What would be worse to someone visiting this country? Hearing nothing but wonderful things in the media and on these blogs, and then coming here and seeing the reality (which really isn't all peaches and cream, as you said), or coming here having at least some idea of the type of stuff to expect? I agree that these blogs have become a hotspot of almost constant negativity, but that'll tone down with time. But better that (I say) than blind (and false!) praise.

Second. The things that I tend to have a problem with here aren't the usual. The traffic doesn't bother me anymore. The rents don't bother me at the moment. Etc. Etc.

The things that DO bother me, and that I DO complain about.. these are things that I can't do anything about. To go back to Sharla. She saw the problem (abused women) and took a great step in the right direction (the shelter). My problems are more personal. Things like the fact that I'm going to go through a hell of a time when I choose to marry my local fiance. Things like the fact that marrying her will still not entitle me to be a part of this country. The list is endless.

These things I do complain about. Again, hoping that someone who knows someone (heh) will listen ;)

4:04 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger Tainted Female said...

I hear ya, and I agree with you. The problems you're talking about are yours and I appreciate that much and have no problem with people complaining about such things.

But, the reality is there is NO positve only forum about the UAE... It's either fairly equal or purely negative... Don't you agree?

4:15 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger Dani said...

More power to you Tainted. I agree with MD, you really have a strong voice. And you even tamed Balushi slightly. LoOoOoL Ok, maybe it's a bit weird that you ended up as his cyber wife... ;P It sounds like fairy tales..!

Just watch the temper, always. Smile!

4:39 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger Balushi said...

I love tainted's blog because she fights alot!

I love catfights especially when girls tears off each others cloths.

anyway on the internet you can imgine pictures like tainted pull the tits of SD!

most of the blogs i dont like to comment in because i know they will get deleted.

4:48 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger samuraisam said...

but in all honesty, who wants to read a positive only publication/blog?

4:53 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger Smokey Mirror said...

Whenever you have a society that restricts speech, and then slowly loses it's hold (as we've seen with the UAE blog scene), the first voices you'll hear will be the negative ones. As I said before, as time goes on, and as things change, you'll hear less of them. It's a natural part of a growing society, I think.

What Sam says is partially true. Who wants to read an all-positive blog? Even more importantly, who wants to START one? One of the main draws to blogging in a society like ours, where you can't exactly stand on a soapbox and express your views, is the fact that you can suddenly say shit that you normally wouldn't be able to.

That usually translates to negative (or at least 'unpopular') views.

5:01 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger archer14 said...

"But a lot of us complain because we really do like it here. And we see the potential that this place has. And there's always the hope that at some point, one complaint might make it to the right person's ear and actually affect something."

I couldn't agree with you more, you took the words out of my mouth. CLAP CLAP CLAP!!

All we see is news that isn't supposed to be news. The real news exists on blogs. And as you point out tainted, why is it there are no positive blogs? Because positivity comes at a price, a price that is a bit too prohibitive.

Some people talk of slave labour being the main reason for the counry being repeatedly tarnished on blogs. It's no wonder that they don't know the restrictions a visa holder has, unless he owns the company. The restrictions are endless and even confusing to say the least. You are tied to your employer by a leash, and your passport is 'confiscated', should you choose to run away.

It boils down to perspective - how you see the world lies squarely on the status of your bank account and the stability of your job. If you can see beyond what your eyes see, you truly know what you're talking about. Otherwise you're being just like the characters on 'The Truman Show'.

But tainted, why are you getting worked up over someone having a blog thats all about dissing dubai?
As far as I see it, it's light hearted banter. Yes, someones feelings got trampled. But no less than thousands of hopes being crushed everyday. Take it easy!

Like I read somehwere on the internet, for those who're born with rose tints in their eyes:
To know a man, walk a mile in his shoes...
If you still don't get it, atleast you have his shoes.

5:43 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger Tainted Female said...

Smokey & Sam...

Thus the reason for all my other colorful entries; no? It's positive with a nasty little twist...


Balushi... What do I look like in that imagination of yours?

5:46 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger Tainted Female said...

'But tainted, why are you getting worked up over someone having a blog thats all about dissing dubai?'

But Archer, why are you trying so hard to use a patronizing tone with me when I believe I've made real clear my reasoning?

5:50 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger Balushi said...

Balushi... What do I look like in that imagination of yours?

cant tell its a bit messy at the moment!

6:01 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger BuJ said...

I do not think this blog is racist or sexist, however you have a tendency to be rather blunt and confrontational.. but there's nothing wrong with that.. better to let it out rather than keep it in and suffer...

delegate the negativity

6:07 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger Tainted Female said...

B.... clean it up a little, come back and share... need to know if I've lost enough weight to quit dieting, or not...

And Buj, thanks for your thoughts! Good to see you back!

6:13 PM, April 08, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

TF vs Balushi - ALWAYS an interesting duel/read :)

P.S IF Balushi(or any other guy) was really witnessing a tit-pulling (lol) duel between SD(yuck, can already imagine perhaps a few anti-dubai rants sketched on those things TOO!) and TF, I doubt if he would notice you lost weight anywhere. Else.


8:49 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger samuraisam said...

I think everyone here complaining about the content of another blog is complaining about themselves, if you're too fucking useless to read something else, or better yet, write something else, then you shouldn't even bother commenting.

I read about 91 UAE related blogs on my RSS reader, they get updated every 10 minutes of the day automatically, I read every single posting that I can, even the ones I completely hate, the most irrational ones, and ones that I find plain boring; disagreeing is one thing, complaining about content is another.
I seriously do pity anyone who reads a single blog/newspaper/whatever, get some new sources; if you're planning on reading a single source for the rest of your life don't bother reading anything at all, shut out your mind and stare at a wall all day long.
No blog should have to be one way or another, they should be about what the author wants it to be about and nothing else; if there is a monopoly it is for a reason.

11:02 PM, April 08, 2006  
Blogger BuJ said...

tainted.. you make it seem like i was on holiday! i am not.. instead i am in need for one... agggh..

thnx anyway..

i got the net for the weekend :)

3:56 AM, April 09, 2006  
Blogger Tainted Female said...

lol @ Anon...

And sam... well said.

Buj... Mabrook?!

11:40 AM, April 09, 2006  

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