He said: I want to finger you.
I have no problem with stupid, vulgar conversation. I have no problem with stating your mind, even if you’re vocalizing demeaning, sexual, or repulsive things you’d like to do.
Thoughts are thoughts and I won’t punish anyone for what they’re thinking; let alone for sharing those thoughts with me.
I do have a problem with the way people process truths; and chose to welcome themselves to mine only to find ammunition they might be able to twist and throw at me. This is processing truths to voice an opinion you’ve already formed; and what you’re stating is rarely relevant and even less common, accurate in the context of which you’re using it.