Opinions are like assholes…
…everybody’s got one.
I read that somewhere, on some other site a long time ago. Not sure who the author is anymore, but I sure as hell relate with that person just now.
There are certain types of people in this world I simply can’t stand. And unfortunately, once I’ve seen one of the shallower personality traits in you, like using an edit button to change what you’ve said and then denying the same all together, or fighting an exhausted argument for the sake of trying your hardest to burn someone but then turning it into simple-minded attempts to belittle another because you just can’t make your point with your limited arguments, I simply can’t view you as a person of any substance. And I can’t imagine many other people do either, despite the plastic smiles they might give you.
Here’s the difference between you and I; I know I’m disliked. I accept it as a fact of life. I even view it as another person’s right not to like me and won’t interfere or attempt to alter their opinion; just like there are many people whom I don’t like.
One of the saddest things about living in this country is the number of people who forge their friendships, their likes & dislikes based on nothing other than their own personal insecurities.
Ironic, because I’m one of the most insecure of them all I’m sure. But I still won’t spend time pampering to a ‘friend’ I really don’t care for. I still won’t talk on the phone with people I can’t stand, and I certainly won’t mold my opinion because I think that’s what people want me to believe, or even that’s what they don’t want to hear because it’s going to get me a lot of extra attention.
Instead, I’ll walk in my shoes. I’ll base my opinions on what I know, and alter them when more information comes along if need be. And I’ll still think whatever it is I think of you.
I read that somewhere, on some other site a long time ago. Not sure who the author is anymore, but I sure as hell relate with that person just now.
There are certain types of people in this world I simply can’t stand. And unfortunately, once I’ve seen one of the shallower personality traits in you, like using an edit button to change what you’ve said and then denying the same all together, or fighting an exhausted argument for the sake of trying your hardest to burn someone but then turning it into simple-minded attempts to belittle another because you just can’t make your point with your limited arguments, I simply can’t view you as a person of any substance. And I can’t imagine many other people do either, despite the plastic smiles they might give you.
Here’s the difference between you and I; I know I’m disliked. I accept it as a fact of life. I even view it as another person’s right not to like me and won’t interfere or attempt to alter their opinion; just like there are many people whom I don’t like.
One of the saddest things about living in this country is the number of people who forge their friendships, their likes & dislikes based on nothing other than their own personal insecurities.
Ironic, because I’m one of the most insecure of them all I’m sure. But I still won’t spend time pampering to a ‘friend’ I really don’t care for. I still won’t talk on the phone with people I can’t stand, and I certainly won’t mold my opinion because I think that’s what people want me to believe, or even that’s what they don’t want to hear because it’s going to get me a lot of extra attention.
Instead, I’ll walk in my shoes. I’ll base my opinions on what I know, and alter them when more information comes along if need be. And I’ll still think whatever it is I think of you.
posted by Tainted Female at
5:29 PM
8 Comments:
True.
Hi Tainted, I dont know how many ppl u've accused of hitting the edit button to change their viewpoints, well one of them was me. To which I posted a reply on my blog, and later deleted the entire post, so chances are u hadnt read that comment.
anyway - briefly - it said (twice) that the question wasnt asked by me, infact I myself did not agree with the question, on your comment , i was assured it was not appropriate and hence removed it.(which u read surely cuz u commented after that) Secondly - the last part - was always there, never edited it once, you must have somehow missed it or not read it.
and it now looks like Balushi turned out to be some person u probably knew in the past.. good for you. (no offence)
I agree with you Hannibal..I miss those days...and dislike the complex life style that is just becoming stressful and tasteless
Tainted...that heading is a bit harsh to say the least. People have opinions and those opinons need not necessarily be agreeable. In fact you must know that you're a wonderful writer and the sole reason for attracting this many visitors on the blog.
I hope you don't turn out into those "I don't give a fuck about you" types. My aplogies if I've got you wrong. I sometimes do.
Hannibal, I too miss those old days in the gulf. Right now I'm struggling myself, but I still hold onto manners. Unfortuantely for the imbeciles you meet while driving( or in general) don't. Money's the catalyst to order. Wouldn't anyone lose their sanity if they're underpaid? If they're made to drive 50+ kms a day? Made to share accomodation (sometimes on bed space)? Made to live a gruelling life?
Let me dissect the people who may visit your blog.
Nationals - goth far more indheresding thngz 2do, man.
Expats - The 'whining' category, who like to vent their thoughts, often not knowing that they could make good use of the advice they dish out themselves. From Robbie whiners to the e-pehla subscribers, they sometimes come to the next category of...
Otherworldy - Balushi, religious preachers, west haters.
Harsha,
Please don’t assume that because a particular comment I make in my journal at any time is a personal attack or insult on you or any other individual person. True, what happened in your Blog was a recent example of the types of things I was referring to; and no I hadn’t seen your reply. But the fact that it was so recent made it an example that was easy to recall along with the other examples I’ve given. You are not the only person whom I’ve experienced this with, or ‘accused’ of this, as you so put it.
If what you’re saying here is true, then forgive me with tying my impression of you to the same.
And I’ll have to run over to Balushi’s Blog to see what you’re referring to. I wouldn’t be surprised if I did know him in the past; since his email address is so damn familiar.
Archer, please, please, please try not to be so sensitive. No where in that rather distasteful (yes, I know it was distasteful & vulgar) heading do I say anything about people’s rights or lack there of, of having an opinion, or their freedom to hold opinions that vary from my own or any other persons. I’m the last person in the world you’ll find judging another on what they think or how they choose to view the world.
You can consider little comments like this one, and probably many more you’ll find here in the future, my general idea black-comedy.
I hate to disappoint you, but I am one of those “I don’t give a fuck about you” types of people, when it comes to dealing with the general masses. Because in reality, very few of us do honestly give a fuck about much that doesn’t affect us personally, and also having this attitude helps me keep my face out of business where it doesn’t belong, isn’t wanted or needn’t be. But on any individual bases, I’m sure in time you’ll see, (if you choose to keep reading long enough) that I am one of the most compassionate, caring, understanding people who does take the another person’s opinion and advice with graciousness and thanks, because I believe you’re really only the person the rest of the world sees.
Archer, my general feeling about people losing their sanity because of the situations you’ve described here is that no one forced them to come and no one makes them stay. And yes, they face injustices just like the rest of us, and as they would anywhere else in the world for varying reasons; but if these are truly factors that are causing their mental or moral decline than they should be reasons enough to force change; even if that change is picking up and leaving without in many cases what they’ve rightfully earned. In my book common courtesy towards another human being who may or may not be in similar or worse shoes than yourself (since you never really know), is far more valuable than even Fort Knox, even if it is rightfully your own.
And from the emails I’ve received in private, from people who fail to comment, your dissection isn’t all that accurate, though seemingly so due to those who choose to comment here in public. But let ask, what category do you think you fit in?
Hannibal, I couldn’t agree with you more. Some of the brightest memories I have in this country are images of aging local men, simply living the life they’ve been blessed with and enjoying all the small things on the way. They were the types of men whose smiles truly lit up entire rooms.
hannibal,
He knows. I think that's what makes it all the more entertaining for him, and us.
ROAR. My fingers hurt.
funny you should ask me that TF, I'm ofcourse the whining expat ;-)
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