Seriously...

“tainted female: I don't want to preach about your personal stuff to you but where I come from the rule is "no means no" i.e. the woman has the right to call off the game at any time, even if the star forward is right in front of an empty net about to slam the goal in. So I don't think that anyone in their right mind should consider yourself responsible at all.

Especially in Islamic societies, self control is one of the most heavily emphasised virtues and I think that this should apply to any situation. It's what separates humans from animals.

So I wouldn't consider you "tainted". Sorry for any offence.”

Humm… This is a reply a MALE blogger gave me in SD’s blog, when I mentioned I DO think I’m at least partly at fault for being raped, and don’t believe that in every case, rape victims are innocent.

Since I’m not interested in having a debate about how I feel concerning this, especially one that will almost certainly turn into childish name-calling rather than logical, rational discussion, as many of the conversations there seem to turn into, I think it’s best to keep my thoughts here; and boy I have a few of them when it comes to this…

Before I tell my story and explain why it is I feel the way I do about that, I just want to point out the irony that Arab girls are considered spoiled, mindless, and mistreated while Arab men considered sexist for opening doors for their women, believing its wrong to use foul language in front of them, and in most cases being happily responsible for them financially and not forcing them into offices for eight hours every day.

But according to this comment made by a man, a woman is not spoiled or mindless for being able to get away with bringing a man to his sexual brink, completely naked and under him, with the tip of his penis not even a centimeter from entering her, and only then deciding it’s not ok to have sex, and calling “RAPE” if that centimeter distance apart becomes a centimeter too far in for a millisecond, for whatever reason; who cares if he didn’t hear her over his breathing, or thought she was into ‘role-play’ like so many of us are. What the HELL does body language say, when the mouth ALWAYS tells it truer!?

You GO girls! Keep pushing those rights to physically, psychologically, and emotionally torture your men and STILL make it their fault (and let them believe it too) with those sexual rights you’ve got! Whoever said male was the stronger sex was clearly mistaken, cause if men are accepting this SHIT now, clearly we’ve got the upper hand.

But who am I kidding? This side of the world is the delusional one.

My rape is MY fault. Thank you very much. And that doesn’t go to say the men have the right to go unpunished, only that I WAS the one who enabled them to do it in the first place. I made myself the fucking victim before it even occurred to them to commit their crime.

Fault - According to dictionary.com
a) A character weakness, especially a minor one.
b) Something that impairs or detracts from physical perfection; a defect.
c) A mistake; an error.
d) A minor offense or misdeed.

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Take note of ‘b,’ ‘c,’ and ‘d,’ while I explain this so that it’s clearly understood.

I am an intelligent woman. I am not blind. I know all about the dangers of rape. I know that when drunk I do not concentrate or think strait. I also heard all the warnings about NOT leaving my drink unattended while out, and not taking an open drink from someone if I didn’t see it opened or poured. I was also wise enough to take heed of these warnings; and never ONCE broke that rule until I was too drunk to worry or think about it.

I choose to drink. Please see B, above and even A, if you will, since by choosing to drink I knowingly weakened my character, and I certainly impaired my physical perfection, of at least the way I was able to USE physical perfection; walk strait, see clearly.

Because I wasn’t able to think clearly, I accepted a drink I would NEVER have taken, had I been sober; as I was in persons house I didn’t know and given a drink by someone whose face I hadn’t seen once before he handed me the shot class.

I put myself in a position where I wasn’t able to take care of myself. I, fully aware of what could happen, did it anyway. FACT, it NEVER would have happened if I weren’t drinking. NO ONE made me do it; and certainly NO ONE told me if I was going to do it, I must do it in a stranger’s home. Now look at D, I certainly did myself a misdeed by accepting that glass, now didn’t I? It may NOT be a law I broke, but a fucking rule more emphasized than most actual laws.

FAULT = MINE.

And if I’m so wrong, and I did nothing wrong… Tell me ONE other girl who will knowingly put herself in the EXACT same position as I did that night, with the same sorts of strangers after experiencing this; believing since it wasn’t her FAULT she didn’t do anything wrong, or make any mistake and she can continue the same behavior without getting raped or assaulted ever again.

If you cross a fucking road in the states where there isn’t a fucking cross walk; YOU KNOW there’s a chance you’ll get hit by a car. If you do get hit, whose fault is it? Now, come on… So many of you have been writing to the fucking papers here about how backwards it is that the driver has to go to jail or gets punished if he kills some guy who decided to jump out and cross Shk. Zayed road. In fact, isn’t there a FUCKING LAW called ‘JAY WALKING’ in the states that makes preventing getting yourself from possibly getting hurt legally your OWN responsibility? Un-FUCKING-believable!